RJ: “So, let's talk about what it means to be an adult. We've known each other as children and as teenagers and as young adults. And kind-of-adults now…”
NR: “We are, but I don’t — not only do I not look at myself as an adult, I don’t look at you as one. I do in the sense of, I'm so proud of you and everything that you’ve accomplished, and it's so amazing. But when I’m talking to you, it’s like I'm 18 again, and we're sneaking into our rooms to break it down over the phone.”
RJ: “That’s true. I mean, thank you for saying that you don’t think of me as an adult. Because sometimes I feel so adult that there's no going back. So I'm happy to hear that you can still see that part of me.”
NR: “I have those areas too, yes. When I'm just hanging with you, I feel — actually, I feel my youngest.”
RJ: “That’s so nice to hear because I was gonna say, and I mean this as a compliment, I feel like you have become such an adult. And by that I mean you're such a responsible, calming force. You have a steadiness about you that I really admire, and I think you’ve done a nice job of cultivating your life as an adult. So I just want to ask if you felt like there was a turning point for you as a young person when you were like, I gotta get my shit together. It's time…”
NR: “No, there wasn’t. Because life, it's just ongoing; energy is ongoing. We just keep moving forward. For me, it's been very gradual. Like I just said, there are times that I don’t even feel like an adult. I feel like one when I'm a mom and when I'm sitting in my office sometimes. I'm taking on new challenges in my life now. I’m challenging myself now just as much as I was being challenged back when I was a teenager. And learning, I would say, even more now than I was even interested in learning back when I was a teenager.
And it's so much fun when you get to that place. Unfortunately, I don’t know if it happens when you are young. I do think that people have a different appreciation for education. I don’t take it for granted in the way that I did. Once I got to a place where I loved learning, loved educating myself, then it just opened up a whole new world for me. That’s why I feel like I'm not done growing, and therefore, I don’t feel like a full adult yet.”
RJ: “Now people ask me all the time about growing up in L.A. and having a celebrity parent. And they ask me why I'm so normal, which I guess…”
NR: “Yeah, and you're like, what? I don’t know…”
RJ: “I know.”
NR: “It’s like, what do you want me to say to that?”
RJ: “I know, exactly. But I guess I always kind of give credit to my parents, because there was definitely the temptation, as you and I both know. We knew a lot of people who had absolutely no supervision. When you think about being a parent in L.A. and you and your husband being a bit known, what's the thing that you do to make sure you guys and your kids don’t get swept up in it? Besides not going out, how do you battle the kind of ever-insatiable, hungry monster of Hollywood?”
NR: “Well, for Joel and me it's very important. And it's just been this way since day one. It's extremely important to us for our kids to be kids, to have a full-blown childhood. And that is the life we’ve created for [them]. Not that there's anything wrong with taking your kids here and there, and sometimes we do and that's really fun, but family and togetherness and just developing a strong closeness and trust with our kids right now, especially at this age, is the most important thing to us. So, that is where we spend most of our time. We are a few years away from my daughter being a teenager. Now is the time for me to really have some one-on-one time with her, for me to hang out with her friends, to do things that she's interested in. And what we both do is just try and pour our interest into what the kids are interested in. We ask them what they want to do. And if it's going to a movie, we just try to keep it enjoyable. And by the way, I like to do that. I like to go to the mall — it's fun…going to Dippin' Dots!”
Read the full interview at Refinery29.
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