Brittany Snow Bullied in High School
Brittany Snow recently sat down with People to talk about her experiences being bullied in high school. She was bullied mainly through AIM, and because of her experience, started the Love is Louder organization to use social media in a positive fashion to promote love and support as opposed to bullying. The organization has been around since October 2010.
What's AIM? Glad she's taken a bad experience and turned it into something good.
ReplyDeleteSeriously people how many here were picked on in school? Is bullying really that bad or are kids just thinner skinned?
I remember being made fun of in Jr. High but in high school I became invisible. That's almost worse.
I think it is a whole lot more vicious. It is easier to be vicious in a text or on social media than face to face right? Though I also agree kids are thinner skinned. If people are sending nasty things to your FB, um there are ways to block them or just shut down your FB. There are other ways to communicate with your real friends. Or sending nasty texts, again there are ways to block them and me I'd just send nasty texts back before I blocked the idiots. Though I guess that might be criminal behaviour now. The other problem is all this social media means kids are giving other kids ammo to bully with - like the nude photos etc.
ReplyDeleteI was lucky I never really recall being bullied myself nor did I bully except once I made a sly comment to a guy in Grade 8 who was rather effeminate, I did not out right call him gay, my teacher heard it and said I've never been more disappointed in you, you were the last person I thought would ever made a comment like that and I had to apologize at the beginning of class to this boy and that taught me very well, my teacher's disappointment in me really hit it home. I tended to defend the underdog after that and and my siblings and I were already friends with some East Indian kids, back in the days when they were the only kids of colour in public school and we defended them all the time, my brother was best friends with the boy and he got into fights defending him.
Exactly Tina. Teachers AND our parents would be all over us for such horrific behavior. Now you hear about parents being the bullys on behalf of their precious babies. They learn it somewhere.
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ReplyDeleteI got my share of nasty remarks, but i wouldnt say i was bullied. I had an overweight fruend, she was bullied mercilessly, kids shrieking out the bus fatso or whatever. Now that should have been stopped. She wasnt on my bus cos she went to catholic school, but all i really cld hv done is sit with her. Nowadays, the bullied come in all shapes and sizes. Nice looking girls can be bullied if they are percieved as a threat or a slut. The damn iphones make it soooo easy to spread, and yes, when angry, you can say some pretty nasty things in a text. Ive had to monitor myself very carefully when texting with batshit relative, but i am an adult. These are kids, they just let everything fly. And they dont seem to be able to just not look at these shitty posts. You know, if u treated an adult like that it wld be harrasment. If u beat up your cubicle mate thats assault. Why is it different for kids, who need all out guidence and support? As parents you hv to walk a fine line. I hv my 5 grandkids here all the time and i listen to them, and i let alot of stuff go, but when anyone is downright mean, i intervene.
ReplyDeleteHow was your Christmas AuntLicky? Sounded like it was starting out disfunctional from the get go.
ReplyDeleteWell sherry, thanks fir asking. There seems to have been some class of christmas miracle, as everyone was mellow, friendly and helpful. Really, it was weird, lol hope yours was wonderful too🎅
DeleteI don't recall ever being bullied. I was teased (I wear glasses, it's like a rite of passage) and was never one of the "popular girls" (thank goodness, I can't imagine my sole source of self-worth being my social value as a teenager), but it's par for the course.
ReplyDeleteI do agree it's much easier to be mean online. Shows like Gossip Girl and Pretty Little Liars exist for a reason - they showcase the ways some people use social media and networking as weapons of mass destruction to a teenager's life. Jodi Picoult wrote a book called "19 Minutes" that talks about it (horrifying book, BTW). And a lot of it goes under the radar of adults.
I think adults are bigger bullies than kids will ever be. I've had co-workers over the years who were just vile to other co-workers.
ReplyDeleteI remember the first openly gay co-worker I ever had ended up quitting after only four months on the job. His lunch was stolen nearly every day, people keyed his car, let the air out of the tires, Super Glued the lock on his locker shut, and lots of other stupid juvenile things.
I know kids can be mean, but they have to be learning it somewhere, and, usually, that somewhere is home.
Bally, thats amazing to me adults cld act like that! Hope either u dont work there anymore or the ass balloon idiots are gone. When dud keying cars become a thing anyway?
DeleteI think it is great this person, whoever she is, is doing something positive. But I really hate it when celebs go on about how they were "bullied" in when they were a kid. There's a big difference between teasing, or even having an arch rival who trash talks you, and being the only scapegoat in the class that you are basically prey for everyone else. And I am willing to bet the percentage is higher for the gay kids out there, though I suppose anything could make you a target. I don't buy celebs who say they were bullied because they were too pretty or even had glasses or whatever. Try being the skinny faggot every year who has to map out routes of the halls for every minute just to keep yourself safe and away from the assholes.
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DeleteBullying when I was at school happened (and teenage girls, and boys, can be quite horrid), however it ended when you went home from school. I worked in a tec school (counsellor) with kids who couldn't cope (or were kicked out of) mainstream education. Had SO much bullying and it was caustic. The online stuff, mobiles, social media etc take it to a whole new level. Had to also work w teaching staff and bring in university lawyers to let them know their legal obligations to act/intervene.
ReplyDeleteI was physically attacked numerous times in jr.high. They had just instituted bussing the ethnic kids into previously all white neighborhood schools in Denver and there were lots of pretty major incidents in the first few years. I had the misfortune of having my dad teach math at the same school, so I became a target for several kids that didn't do well in his class. To top it off we had a very seriously racist black vice principal at the school. I got jumped many times in jr. high, but left completely alone in high school. Jr high kids are the worst! We even had knife fights happen at our jr. high. It was crazy.
ReplyDeleteMin and everyone who was bullied- so sorry to all of you. I always wonder what a bully- ier wld say now? Are they sorry?
ReplyDeleteI guess I never really felt "bullied" I felt more like the white kid that other black kids who were pissed about Getting bussed took their anger out on (it was always black kids that jumped me). I never realized until years later that I was an occasional target, because my dad was a math teacher at the school. The same thing happened to my cousin whose dad taught at his school and he pointed that out to me. . I wasn't constantly tormented like other kids who were physically not "average" or not considered "attractive" or "normal". It was just something that happened between classes when I would get caught in a stairwell alone or on the playground at lunch. I never was seriously hurt, more like freaked out. It never ever happened off the school grounds and never before or after jr. High.
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine the horrible psychological trauma caused by being bullied online. That would be a 24/7 thing that would be impossible to get away from. If I had kids I'd be tempted not to let them have a computer or cell phone (unrealistic I know). I don't think many parents police their kids computers and gadgets. Glad I don't have kids.
Sadly, I've encountered more bullying in the workforce than I ever did at school ... at school, you could tell a teacher or the principal ... or even your parents ... but who do you complain to when your boss is a bully?
ReplyDeleteShe was working steadily as a professional actress thru high school, how often was she actually there? Plus my friend worked as a dancer on American Dreams and said Britney was a rude bitch who never associated with anyone who wasn't "important" and would make snotty comments about "the extras" so fuck her
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